A Letter to Daddy :)

Daddy,

We haven't know each other for long but I feel so connected to you already. It's very rare that I feel like I can trust someone and be honest with someone - and I am really happy to have found you.

I enjoyed every moment with you. I don't just see it as play. I love you as a friend. I respect you as my mentor. I treasure and serve you as my Dominant. I might not be the best girl in the world but I would do the best within my ability to make you happy - because making you happy makes me really happy.

Thank you so much for sacrificing so much for me. I know that you are busy and you have a lot of commitments in life - yet you do so much for this silly fishie and care so much for me.

Thank you Daddy :)

Fishieeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

Play Munch 酒吧派對 (22 April 2015)

I have been really busy but I finally had the chance to take a break and I had some kinky fun tonight at a play munch which's held in a bar (closed curtains). I put on my kimono and tied several people - some of them were really eager to be tied by me as they had never been tied before. I tied a guy blindfolded - this time apart from a gote, I did some ties on his legs, also with a blindfold and it's a really good practice experience for me. I also tied several other people - something special to recap:

I tied S. She's not very flexible - which's fine. I hate it when people say that in order to be a good rope bottom, you need to be fit/skinny/small/flexible. I don't agree with it - as long as that person has a passion for ropes, and is eager to be in my ropes, I am happy to tie him/her (or other gender). I have tied people of all sizes and flexibility - when you tie, you don't just tie a gote on flexible people who can do a gote position. You tie *the person*. You do different ties to suit that person. We are all different and it's where the beauty truly lies. I tied S in a modified gote position and it's really fun to be able to improvise - I did a lot of improvisation today.

I also tied N. He's sadomasochistic, sometimes Dominant. It's funny because I am submissive. But in our rope scene, I am the one tying and it seems that our roles are switched. I tied a teppou with finger ties on him, a futomono and opened his legs wide and tied his legs to his back - basically he's completely restrained. We then had some more fun - I started by dripping candle wax on him - so as to get his skill more sensitive. Then I used the pinwheel on him - on his inner thigh and the bottom of his feet. It's excruciating for him as it's super sensitive. When he thought it's bad enough - I pulled out the sadistick and started working on his inner thigh and bottom of his feet. At the end of our scene, I said I would give him 20 more by the sadistick, and I ended up stopping at 19 and repeating 19-19-19-19-19 for like forever. I was carefully reading his emotions, his reactions, his facial expressions - to push him, to feel him, to see how much further I can go with him. It's a very exciting moment for me and I know that he would curse me for a few days (there are bruises on his inner thigh - it hurt quite a bit)

It's a really fun night and I really enjoyed introducing several newbies to ropes!

Photos of S are below:

最近十分忙碌，但今晚終於有時間到了一個酒吧的派對。我穿上和服，開始綁了幾位朋友－他們許多都沒有試過緊縛，十分期待第一次被緊縛。

首先，我再次蒙眼（蒙上自己的眼）來綁一位朋友，今次不只是綁上身，我還嘗試以觸覺來綁他的下身，是一個十分好的練習經驗。

另外我綁了幾位朋友，但以下是比較特別的：

我綁了S，她不是很柔軟。其實，我不同意別人說被綁的一定要柔軟、瘦、等等。緊縛是一種熱誠，只要他／她對繩有興趣，願意投入，我就很樂意綁他／她，我從來亦不介意體型／重量／柔軟／高矮等，因為我們綁的是人，每個人都不同，緊縛的感覺和經驗亦不同，這就是緊縛美麗之處。我綁S的時候，特意改變了後手綁的綁法，是用前後手，因為她不能把雙手都放在背後－但我認為還是十分好的綁法（我今晚都是憑感覺綁的）

我亦綁了N。他是一個支配者／虐待者／被虐待者，有趣的是，我是一個被支配者，但我們就像身份調轉一樣，我來綁他－我綁了個TEPPOU（上手和後手綁），然後在把他的腳屈著，再連接到他的上身，令他動彈不得）然後我開始在他大腿內側滴蠟，再用轉輪來令他的皮膚十分敏感，然後最後我拿了一支彈彈棍（很痛的），在他的大腿內側留了不少美好回憶哈哈。綁和玩的時候，我不斷看他的面容、反應、看他還可以受多少、看他還想要多少，對我來說是十分刺激的。

真的很享受今晚，可以有機會給予幾位新手第一次緊縛經驗：）

以下是S的相片。

Rope Bondage 101 Workshop 緊縛101 工作坊（5月12日）

緊縛101 工作坊（5月12日）

大家好 :) 我將會舉辦緊縛101工作坊，歡迎任何有興趣的人士參加。

詳請如下：

日期：2015年5月12日（星期二）

時間：晚上7:30至11:00 (暫定)

地點：中環（暫定）

名額：15人（ 滿額的話請參加下一節的緊縛101工作坊）

費用：每人港幣200元（費用需要先傳到銀行戶口）

會提供的：麻繩（jute）

請帶：創傷剪（必需－否則不准進場），繩（如有），瑜珈墊（如有）

衣著：舒適便服

語言：主要中文（夾雜英文用詞）

流程：

7:30-8:00 交流及討論

8:00-8:30 緊縛安全

8:30-8:45 緊縛前的溝通

8:45-9:00 緊縛基本知識

9:00-10:00 基本綁法

10:00後 自由練習，交流及分享

工作坊內容：

1. 緊縛安全

緊縛有一定的危險性，但許多人都忽略了。我們會講解緊縛時要注意的安全問題。

－簡單貼士（衣著等）

－緊縛要注意的神經線或者較為危險的地方

－緊縛者要注意的事項

－被綁者要注意的事項

－安全的設備（創傷剪刀／刀／鉤的分別）

－緊縛前的溝通與安全性的關係

2. 緊縛前的溝通

就像其他BDSM活動，溝通是十分重要的，我們會講解緊縛者和被綁者在做緊縛前大家要討論的事項。

3. 緊縛基本知識

－不同繩的分別（棉／尼龍／麻／黃麻）

－繩的長度和粗度

－其他緊縛會用到的工具

－推薦的書本／資源

－緊縛裹的專用名詞

4. 基本綁法 （示範及練習）

－如何收繩

－如何接繩

－單柱縛和雙柱縛（我們會講解不同方法去做單柱縛，及解釋不同方法的好與壞，不同時候應該做哪一種綁法）

5. 緊縛練習

工作坊後的時間大家歡迎練習。

規則：

1. 安全為上

一定要帶急救用的創傷剪刀以便不時之需。

2. 互相尊重及必須得到別人同意

尊重其他出席者，如果你想借用其他人的物品，請必須得對方同意。

如果你想觀看，請保持距離，並不要隨意摸其他人和他們的物品。

3. 只是可以做緊縛的活動

這是個緊縛的工作坊，所以請尊重活動，只是學習緊縛及交流，並不可以進行其他BDSM的活動。

4. 攝影

為了保護大家的私隱，未有得主辦人的准許，場地不可以拍攝。

如要打電話或用電話，請到場外。

當日會有攝影師在場，如果你想拍下你緊縛練習，攝影師會在場協助，主辦人會於活動後把相片傳給你。

5. 不歡迎自大／是非

請大家謙虛學習，我的活動是希望大家開心和舒服的，所以請不是帶是是非非來活動。

我有權利請任何犯規的朋友離開場地，並以後不再邀請他們。

其他事項：

1. 這工作坊會提供大家一個機會去跟我談天，如果我相信你／認為你是安全的，下一次我可能會請你到我的緊縛聚會（私人聚會，通常一個月一至兩次）

2. 我會大量訂緊急用的創傷剪，如果沒有創傷剪的出席者可以在報名表上訂購（港幣100元）

3. 歡迎單身人士參加，當日的練習主要在自己身上的部位，不需要有拍擋。

報名方式：

1.  請填寫Google的報名表，先到先得。http://goo.gl/forms/BQjvczjWPb

2. 成功報名的朋友會於5月1日收到答覆，收不到答覆的朋友代表報名不成功（後備名單）

3.  收到答覆後要在5月8日前傳費用到銀行戶口，詳請會傳給出席者，未能在日子前傳費用的話，名額將給予後備名單的朋友。

聯絡方法：

Email: subay.annie.hk@gmail.com

Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/subaykinbaku

subay

Interest check: Rope Bondage 101 Workshop 收集意見：緊縛101工作坊

Hi everyone

- Interest check: Rope Bondage 101 Workshop-

— 收集意見：緊縛101工作坊－

A lot of people who are into ropes have approached me for pointers (where/how to start). Although I host rope socials, they are private and by-invitation only so as to protect everyone’s safety, comfort and identity. One “wrong” person who ruin the entire event and I hope that people understand where I am coming from. That being said, I also do not want to deter rope lovers from learning so I have the following idea.

My idea is to host a regular introductory workshop “Rope Bondage 101”. This workshop will be open to ALL and it’s catered for single people. You WON’T need a partner – in the hands-on/practical session, we will all practice on ourselves.  This workshop is also for all levels – it’s a comprehensive introduction to rope bondage.

Content:

1. Basic bondage safety

There are certain risks to rope bondage. We will go through the bondage safety – how BOTH the rope top and the rope bottom can ensure safety.

- Basic tips on bondage safety

- We will talk about the sensitive/dangerous/fragile spots on the body (different nerves) and the associated risks and how the bottom can watch out for them.

- Safety equipment (difference between scissors/hooks/knives etc) and what to do in case of injuries or emergent situations

- The importance of rope negotiation in the context of bondage safety

2.  Rope negotiation

Just like any other BDSM play or relationships – the rope top and the rope bottom need to communicate and negotiate. We will go through the negotiation process and things both parties should know.

3. Basic rope knowledge

- Difference between different ropes (e.g. cotton/nylon/hemp/jute)

- Rope length and thickness

- Gears you should have for rope bondage

- Useful resoureces/books

- Technical terms (different ties/tension/frictions)

4. Hands-on/practical skills

- Coiling ropes

- Joining ropes

- Single and double column tie (if we have time, we will talk about the different ways to do a single column tie and the pros and cons of each of them)

Other remarks:

1.    It will be a chance for people I don't know to get to know me and chat with me – so if I am willing to vouch for you/trust you – you can come to my rope gatherings J

2.    I am thinking about doing a bulk purchase on safety shears – so people can buy shears from me

3.    Quota is around 10-15. Cost depends on the venue (TBC)

I welcome any comments/feedback that you might have. If there’s enough interest, I will start looking for venues and hopefully organize the first one in May. And if the first one goes well – I will organize them regularly.

So if you are interested – leave me a message so I know whether I should host one!!! INTEREST CHECK!!!

Contact:

Email: subay.annie.hk@gmail.com

Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/subaykinbaku

subay

哈囉：）

最近有不少朋友聯絡我，他們都對緊縛有興趣，但不知道如何開始及學習。我平時的緊縛聚會只開放給我認識的朋大（為保朋友的安全和舒適），而我平時時間亦有限所以未能幫到每一位聯絡我的朋友，所以我有以下的主意。

我正在想籌辦一個緊縛101的工作坊，工作坊是大家都可以報名的，歡迎單身的朋友來（因為我們在工作坊練習的綁法可以在自己身上練習的）

工作坊內容：

1. 緊縛安全

緊縛有一定的危險性，但許多人都忽略了。我們會講解緊縛時要注要的安全問題。

－ 簡單貼士

－緊縛要注意的神經線或者較為危險的地方

－緊縛者要注意的事項

－被綁者要注意的事項

－安全的設備（創傷剪刀／刀／鉤的分別）

－緊縛前的溝通與安全性的關廿係

2. 緊縛前的溝通

就像其他BDSM活動，溝通是十分重要的，我們會講解緊縛者和被綁者在做緊縛前大家要討論的事項。

3. 緊縛基本知識

－不同繩的分別（棉／尼龍／麻／黃麻）

－繩的長度和粗度

－其他緊縛會用到的工具

－推薦的書本／資源

－緊縛裹的專用名詞

4. 基本綁法

－如何收繩

－如何接繩

－單柱縛和雙柱縛（我們會講解不同方法去做單柱縛，及解釋不同方法的好與壞，不同時候應該做哪一種綁法）

其他事項：

1.    這工作坊會提供大家一個機會去跟我談天，如果我相信你／認為你是安全的，下一次我可能會請你到我的緊縛聚會

2.    我可能會大量訂緊急用的創傷剪，大家可以向我購買。

3.    名額大概是10-15人，費用跟場地而定。

歡迎留下意見。如果大家真的有興趣，我才會開始聯絡場地，希望五月能籌辦到第一個工作坊。

有興趣的朋友－請留言讓我知道有沒有足夠興趣／人數（用任何渠道也可以）！！

聯絡方法：

Email: subay.annie.hk@gmail.com

Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/subaykinbaku

subay

My First 第一次

First time tying blindfolded.

First video of me tying.

第一次蒙著眼做緊縛

第一次拍影片

:) 

Spreading my passion for ropes 用繩感染大家 (4月11-12週末）

I tied quite a lot this weekend. Several people approached me. They were mainly newbies and never had any shibari experience so this weekend, I spent some time to introduce some people to ropes - and I also treated it as a learning experience (tying people of different body shape and gender)

今個週末，我跟不同的朋友做了緊縛，他們都是新手，沒有任何經驗，所以他們希望我可以綁他們，讓他們感受緊縛是怎樣一回事。

Rope 緊縛者: subay
Model 被綁者: HY

Rope 緊縛者: subay
Model 被綁者: gringoire





I also tried something new - tying blindfolded. It's a brand new experience and really fun - I relied on all my senses to tie - to explore the body - to feel the ropes. I found so much tranquility in it.

另外，我試了新綁法－我蒙著眼地綁一個高手小手後手縛，很新奇和有趣的經驗－真的要依靠觸覺，去探索對方身體，感覺繩的張力。

Rope 緊縛者: subay
Model 被綁者: anonymous

I might write more later when I have time but just want to upload a few pictures.

遲一下我有時間可能會再寫多一點，但先上載相片。

Ropey Easter Weekend 復活節與緊縛 :)

Happy Easter everyone :)

First, apologies if I haven't replied to your messages on Fetlife/HKBDSMC/Facebook/Gmail etc. I have been super busy (haven't been around a laptop for around 1-2 weeks now) as I have been having some kinky fun :D

復活節快樂！

首先，我最近因為比較忙，所以回覆會比較慢！因為時間關係，以下用中文寫的會比較簡短，有興趣請閱讀英文版哈哈。

以下是我在復活節做過的：P

Midnight Ropes with @luis1786

@Luis1786 and I met on Fetlife. We exchanged several messages and he wanted to practice tying with me. I am often willing to be the practice bottom. Although I am not super bendy flexible, I think one thing good about practising on me is that I can give very constructive feedback and I enjoy communication. As I have a bit of rope experience as a rope top, I can often tell him/her concretely where the problem is (tension/wrap placement/wrong fiction etc)

So we met for a few times to have some rope fun. He's not the most experienced at ropes. I remember myself saying that I would only enjoy being tied by experienced rope tops. But actually - not always. I had such a good time being tied by him. I could see/feel/sense/hear a lot of mistakes - but I decided to stay silent and let the ropes caress me. The thing is - it's not really about the ropes - he might be slow, he might make mistakes, do the wrong knot, go to high/low - yet more important is how he uses his ropes to caress me, to torture me, to give me feelings, to build a connection. He's very good at controlling a rope bottom and it's something I definitely want to learn from him. While he takes his time to tie, he always holds my hair tight to control my movement - to force me to my kneels, to push me down, to do whatever he wishes me to do. I was such a happy girl enjoying the happy moments.

I guess most people now focus too much on the technical side of kinbaku - yes, being safe is important, and doing the tie right etc is definitely good - but in kinbaku, we don't tie objects, we tie persons - persons with feelings. Kinbaku is almost like sex - it's intimate, you do it with people you trust and love.

And our rope session slowly developed into something else...some more play...:P (shhhhh)

我跟luis1786是在Fetlife認識的，他跟我說想練習緊縛，於是他來香港時我們就一起在凌晨時段玩／練習。我平時不介意做練習對象，雖然我不要超級柔軟，但因為我有綁人的經驗，所以我被綁的時候可以給予綁我的人一些意見，可以清楚跟他們說甚麼好／不好。

他不是很有經驗，我一直以為我不會享受被不是很有經驗的人綁，但我錯了，今次跟他的經驗是很不同的。他一直綁我，我都感覺到、聽到、看到問題／錯誤，但因為還是安全的，我就繼續靜靜地讓他試／練習（最後我有給他意見），但我想說的是，被他綁是很有感覺的，他很善於控制他綁的人，當他在想怎樣繼續綁的是候，他總會拉著我的頭髮，控制著我，把我推到地下，把我放到他希望的位置等，他會用繩來撫摸我，來虐待我。這讓我想起－其實緊縛不是由繩開始，是由一個眼神，撫摸，兩者同步的呼吸－對，就是那種無型的聯繫，張力。

Rope Intensive with @Nuidetokyo

As @Nuitdetokyo is staying in Hong Kong for Easter, I have decided to go bug him again :P We talked about a rope intensive as I am going to join a kinbaku study group in Tokyo in late June with some rope masters including Osada Steve, Yukimura Haruki and Nawashi Kanna. So to prepare for my first official/formal rope education in Japan, I thought it would be good to learn from @Nuitdetokyo as he's been tying in Japan for 10 years.

We mainly focused on the takate-kote and we looked at many important details. Every time someone goes to Japan, it's very likely that he will be asked to tie a takate-kote - it's just a very good way to see how a person ties and his experience and his skills. I spent a lot of time practising the tension of my ropes - it's a bit of a challenge for me. I usually don't tie super tight due to my models preference but in the session, I had to learn to increase the tension of my ropes so it took me a bit of time to adjust to it. Another challenge is the speed. I had to do a 3-rope takate kote in 4.5 minutes and so far my record is around 5.5 minutes.

That being said - to prepare for my rope education, I am now looking for more practice bottoms, preferably girls (I tie people of all genders, but as in Japan, the models are usually female, so I have to practice tying girls first) :D Give me a shout if interested!

Just a picture of a takate kote done in 5.5 minutes :P Its not perfect...but...well it's my first time tying so fast!

去準備6月尾在日本東京跟繩師（長田流、雪村春樹等）學習緊縛，我就跟了Nuitdetokyo學習（因為他有在日木緊縛的經驗），我們整天主要練習高手小手後手縛，雖然你見到很多人都在做後手縛，但其實要做一個完美的後手縛是十分困難的，很多細節是在相片看不到的。我那天主要練習繩的張力，和練習要在4分半鐘做好一個3條繩的後手縛。以下是一張相片（不是很完美，但用了5分半，差不到吧，始終第一次哈哈）

Rope 緊縛者: subay
Model 被綁者: fufu

Photoshoot with two models

@Nuitdetokyo has been working on his portfolio and he wants to do some photoshoots with Hong Kong as the theme. I have been helping him with models and photographers (as there are quite a few photographers who contact me on Facebook). So we did some simple photoshoots to get to know the models.

There isn't a lot to say about the photoshoot but there's one thing special - we worked with a girl model. She's completely new to shibari and we did a simple side suspension (yoko zuri). She asked us to let her down almost immediately as she's not used to the feeling of suspension. Interestingly, the second time we did it, again a side suspension, after taking the pics, she asked to stay in the air for longer. It's really interesting to see a newbie explore shibari and her reactions :P

We are still looking for professional/semi-professional models who are willing to be tied.
1. Nudity (frontal or complete) with some explicitness (strictly no sex)
2. Girls (prefer girls with boooooobs!)
3. Paid photoshoot (market price)
4. Rope experience preferred
5. Fetish/sexy wardrobe welcome
6. No commercial use - just for an online portfolio
7. Body size/shape/nationality/ink etc flexible

Send me a message if interested!

Email: subay.annie.hk@gmail.com
Facebook: Subay Kinbaku
Wechat: fishie_ay

復活節還做了幾個緊縛攝影，有興趣的模特兒可以聯絡我。要求：
1. 願意被綁
2. 裸露（沒有性行為，不需要擔心）
3. 價錢跟市場價格
4. 最好有緊縛的經驗
5. 最好有自己的衣服
6. 相片不是商業的，是一位繩師想做一個portfolio
7. 身材／國藉等等沒有特別要求
8. 這個攝影的繩師不是我，是一位很有名的法國（在日本有10年緊縛經驗）的繩師，但我可以在場做翻譯和協助

有興趣在Email/Facebook/wechat 聯絡我：）

More ropes...

Got tied during Easter - crotch rope - crotch rope attached to the suspension point - ouch. 

That's all I wanna say :P haha.

復活節的其他時間，我都沒有綁很多人，不斷的被綁，其中的是股繩，股繩連接著天花板的吊環，輕輕地向上拉一拉，很痛，很幸福：P