Self Suspension/ Rope Suspension Fun with Fufu 自吊和與fufu做吊縛 (29 March 2015)

It takes a lot of passion, dedication and devotion to learn ropes. I spend a lot of time for practice and research. And today, I decided to have some suspension fun and practice with @fufu.

學緊縛，是需要熱誠，要不斷練習，不斷改善，不斷研究。今天，我跟朋友@fufu練習了吊縛。

With a gote as the basis, I started working on different positions and exploring @fufu's body. I started with some floor ties. The first one's a very defensive position that I came up with - it's a struggle between the power/control portrayed by the tie and the inner submission within her. I like the first tie a lot. And then I proceeded to do some suspension - and then tying her poor little toes to the crotch rope - so it's like a little predicament - if she decided to drop her toes, she would feel something hehe. 

我們先做了個後手縛，然後開始嘗試不同的姿勢－從地上的緊縛再到吊縛。第一個是在地上的，姿勢十分防衛，看上來是很有力，很有控制的，但同時間她的心裡間是多麼的無助，是一個很有趣的對比。然後我們開始做吊縛，其中一個特別的是腳趾是跟股繩綁在一起的，如果她的腳放鬆，那麼股繩就會向上拉：P

When I untied her - there's this beautiful moment - she's all blissed out.

當我解繩的時候，她的樣子是十分幸福的，十分美麗的一刻。

We took a break and had a little chat about the tie. And then we continued to work on the second set. I wanted to do something different so I decided to go for teppou shibari with finger ties (note the use of crotch rope haha) Then I went on to do a partial suspension with her ankles beautifully tied. Then I moved on to a very "welcoming" position (open "M" legs)

我們休息了一會兒，談談剛才的緊縛可以怎樣改善，然後繼續做練習第二種吊縛。我們想試新的吊縛，所以做了個像拿著槍的姿勢，右手是十分幸福的，因為血不能流到那兒，還有是要不斷用力支持右手的力，用在吊縛時是有一定的困難。我首先做了個半吊，然後做了個M字腳的全吊。

We didn't have much time left so we decided to just do something simple. Simple...but painful (please do not try these ties if you don't have any experience - they are VERY dangerous and painful and challenging). We first did an inverted suspension by one wrap on the waist, followed by an inverted suspension by one ankle. 

最後，我們沒有很多時間，所以只會做簡單的吊縛（簡單但十分痛苦的），如果你沒有經驗，請不要亂試，是十分危險，做錯會掉下來，傷頭／頸／脊椎骨等。第一個吊縛是只用腰的一條繩吊上去，然後第二個是用單腳的繩。

I seldom get suspended in Hong Kong as there aren't many people who are experienced enough to do that. So I decided to do a simple self suspension. 

我平常很少機會被吊，因為香港沒有很多有經驗的繩師，所以我最後做了個簡單自吊（倒吊）

Doing suspensions is really challenging and I have so much more to learn - the right tension, placement, transition, the balance of load, how to do the ties quickly and safely etc. I am really thankful that I have such a good rope bottom to practice ropes with and try things out with. We had a really good time - although it's not a rope scene, we still had lots of fun and laughters hehe.

做吊縛真的很困難，我還有很多很多要學習－張力，重量的分佈，繩擺放的最佳位置，如何在空中轉姿勢，如何快而安全地做吊縛等等。我真的十分高興有fufu做我的拍擋，讓我可以有機會練習多些吊縛。雖然今天只是練習，但我們兩人真的很享受過程：）

Rope 緊縛者: subay

Model 被綁者: fufu

Photography 攝影: cindyhk

Ropes at March Party by Kinky Hong Kong 三月派對－與兩位朋友的緊縛經驗(28 March 2015)

I am a submissive. Despite the fact that I do ropes and tie a lot, I still identify myself as a submissive. People might associate "tying" with "topping" or "dominating" but I do not agree. When I tie someone up, I simply want to get close to them. To caress them. To connect with them. To make them happy. I do not do torture ties for the sake of torturing people - I do it only because my friends enjoy being tortured. So fundamentally speaking - I am still thinking from the perspective of a submissive - I just want people around me to be happy - and that in turn, would make me happy.

But when I go to the parties held by Kinky Hong Kong, I don't really play a lot now (as a submissive). I don't do impact play anymore - anyone can hit me really hard. Anyone can do mean things to me - but it's the mental aspect that's lacking in a lot of scenes and I do not enjoy playing with people I cannot connect well with. So when I go to parties now, I usually do ropes with my friends.

Yesterday, I tied up two wonderful girls. :)

I tied @Nai first. We were just chatting and discussing the new suspension ring and swivel that I got. Not many people can take spinning and swinging when up in the air. It's even harder to take when the person's suspended inverted. I personally can take it but I do not enjoy it as I have motion sickness very easily. But @Nai is a very playful girl and she's really curious to know what it would be like. So we tried it out by doing an inverted suspension with hip harness. She looked amazing up in the air - I enjoyed spinning her, and stopping her, and holding her steady in my embrace, and giving her the caress that she deserves.

我是一個被支配者，雖然我做許多的緊縛，但我的目的不是去控制別人／給他們痛楚，我愛緊縛，是因為我想有一個機會深層次地認識一個人－去接近他們，撫摸，聯繫，和讓他們感到快樂－而從他們的快樂我亦從中得到快樂。

我現在去BDSM派對，不常常被其他人支配，主要因為我只跟我喜歡和可以聯繫到的人一起玩。任何人都可以打我，但BDSM其中十分重要的完素是心靈上的溝通，所以現在在派對，我還是喜歡跟朋友們做緊縛。

昨天，我去了一個派對，綁起了兩位女性朋友。

我先綁Nai。我們初初只是在討論我會轉動的吊環，許多人都不喜歡被轉，他們都怕會暈倒，特別是倒吊的時候。但Nai是一個十分貪玩的女孩，很想去試試在空中吊起轉動，於是我們就即興做了個倒吊。

Ropes 緊縛者: subay

Model 被綁者: Nai

Photography 攝影: VelmaVoluptuary

Then I had some rope fun with @V. We planned a bit ahead for the scene. I decided to go for the sensual way. It's the first time that I tied her so I wanted her to feel my ropes and be comfortable first. I went for a gote, and proceeded to tie her hair, and mouth, and finally her eyes. We also did a partial suspension/stretchy ties I enjoyed how much she enjoyed being ropes - when she's completely in my arms, led by me, feeling everything that I gave her - that's a really beautiful gift.

然後我就綁了V。我們一早已經有計劃一起做些緊縛。我最後決定今次用比較溫柔的方法，因為昨天是我第一次綁她，我希望可以慢慢認識她的身體，讓她的身體感受我的繩。我先做個後手綁，然後再綁她的頭髮，口，最後是眼睛，我們亦做了些半吊和比較需要柔軟度的綁法。我十分喜歡她陶醉的樣子，是美麗的一刻。

4月2日晚上緊縛聚會 Easter Rope Gathering on 2 April 2015 (Thursday) evening

Hi everyone :D

So I am planning to organise a rope social (just in time for Easter) together with the organisers of HKBDSMC.

A rope social is for rope lovers to chat, discuss, practice, learn and get feedback from each other. You will also have a chance to mingle with rope lovers from both Fetlife and HKBDSMC.

This rope gathering is for people of ALL levels. If you are just beginning, you can always approach more experienced rope tops/bottom and they will be happy to help!

Do not worry if you don’t have a partner - there will be willing rope practice bottoms :)

Details:

Date: 2 April 2015 (Thursday)
Time: 8-11pm
Venue: An industrial building in Kwai Hing (Details will be sent to you upon confirmation - please keep the address confidential)
Attire: Casual wear (comfy for clothes)
What will be provided: 4 suspension points, limited jute ropes (thanks to 大人)
Please bring: safety shears, your own ropes, carabiners and yoga mat
Quota: 20-25 (on first-come-first-served basis)
Cost: HKD100 (just to split the venue cost - I am not earning money)

Rules:

1. Safety
Safety is of utmost importance for any kind of BDSM play. If you are not familiar with a certain tie but you would like to try it out or practice, it’s better to find a third party or someone more experienced as a witness.
It’s also very important to have your safety shears with you all the time.
No alcohol/drugs are allowed.

2. Respect and mutual consent
Please respect all attendees at the rope social. Do not touch others stuff without their permission. Do not touch anyone without people’s consent. You know, just don’t be a creep or a complete asshole.

3. Ropes only
This rope social is only for rope enthusiasts to practice and learn from each other. It should not be considered as a rope party or a rope workshop. No other kinds of BDSM play would be allowed. We hope to create a relaxing and safe atmosphere for rope enthusiasts.

4. Photography policy
Confidentiality and protection of identity are very important to many people. Therefore, no phones or cameras would be allowed once you are in the venue. If you would like to make a phone call, please do that outside.
We understand that some people may want to take pictures of their rope work for reference. Therefore, we have a cameraman and pictures would be transferred to you immediately after the event (and upon request, deleted as well)

5. No ego and no drama
Please just don’t be an arrogant git. No matter how good you are, be humble. And if you are not that good, don’t pretend to be.
And no drama please. No politics. It’s supposed to be fun

6. Private invitation
Do not invite anyone else without the host’s permission. We would like to keep it private, discreet, safe and fun!

I have the discretion to kick out anyone who breaks the rule(s) even if it's the first time as they have been set out clearly here.

How to RSVP
Send me a message if you are interested. Quota’s limited so do contact me earlier!

My contact
Fetlife: subay
HKBDSMC: subay
Wechat: fishie_ay
Email: subay.annie.hk@gmail.com

Cheers,
subay/Annie

大家好：D

首先，我在中學時中文差一點不合格，所以有翻譯錯誤的話請原諒，以下所有以英文作準﹗

我計劃在4月2日舉辦一個小型緊縛聚會，主要是讓喜愛緊縛的人可以在一個舒適、安全的環境下交流、討論及練習。當日，有興趣的朋友，大人及我願意分享基本縛法（單柱縛，雙柱縛，如何加繩，以及基本後手縛）這個聚會歡迎不同程度的朋友（HKBDSMC和Fetlife的朋友）參加，如果你是個新手，可以跟當日有較多經驗的朋友學習。

如果你沒有練習的對象，你可以在聚會認識新朋友。

詳請如下：

日期： 4月2日（星期四）
時間： 晚上8至11時
地點： 葵興－私人包場（地址會傳給出席者，請將地址保密）衣著： 舒適便服
會提供的： 4個吊鈎，少量的麻繩（由大人提供）
請帶：繩，行山扣，瑜珈墊
所有出席者必須帶急救用的剪刀。如果沒有，請聯絡我。
名額：20-25人（先到先得）
費用：100元（包括場租，小食及飲品，費用要先傳到銀行戶口）

規則：

1. 安全為上
一定要帶急救用的剪刀以便不時之需。
不可以有酒精／毒品。
如果你是新手但想試不同的綁法，可以找較有經驗的人跟你一齊，互相學習。如果你不熟悉吊縛，請勿自行嘗試﹗

2. 互相尊重及必須得到別人同意
尊重其他出席者，如果你想借用其他人的物品，請必須得對方同意。
如果你想觀看，請保持距離，並不要隨意摸其他人。

3. 只是可以做緊縛的活動
這是個緊縛的聚會，並不是一個課程或工作坊或派對，所以請尊重活動，只是練習緊縛及交流，並不可以進行其他BDSM的活動。

4. 拍照
為了保護大家的私隱，未有得主辦人的准許，場內不可以拍攝。如要打電話或用電話，請到場外。如果你想拍下你緊縛練習，請用活動專用的相機，主辦人會於活動後把相片傳給你。

5. 不歡迎自大／是非
請大家謙虛學習，我的活動是希望大家開心和舒服的，所以請不是帶是是非非來活動。

6. 私人活動
沒有主辦的准許，請不要隨便帶外人／朋友到活動。

我有權利請任何犯規的朋友離開場地，並以後不再邀請他們。

報名方式：

如果有興趣，請聯絡我subay，聯絡方法在下面，請寫上名字及聯絡方式，收到訊息後我會聯絡你，費用要先傳到銀行戶口。

名額有限，先到先得，請盡快報名。

聯絡方法：

HKBDSMC: subay
Fetlife: subay
Wechat: fishie_ay
Email: subay.annie.hk@gmail.com

主辦人：subay (Annie) 

An Intimate Moment - Ropes and Whips 那一刻－繩與鞭 (22 March 2015)

A lot of times, when I do ropes with people, it's just ropes - no pain, no shame, no sexual moment - just pure connection, caressing and love for each other. But there are times, when with the right person that you can connect with, ropes can bring the two people to connect on an even deeper level - where I am willing to give him my soul and heart, to submit to him, to suffer for him, and to embrace my inner shame.

This entry is not about pretty ties/photoshoot/rope events. It's more like a rope scene. But I am still writing it because I want to tell everyone that now, a lot of people are too obsessed with the idea of taking pretty rope pics, focusing too much on the tie, and they forget that people use ropes to connect and play and have fun. It's to enhance the entire experience. In private, instead of suspending your partner and having to worry about his/her safety all the time, why not stay on the floor and have some sexy time? 

So yesterday, I had a private rope date with 3 people. We treated some ropes, and did some rope practice. After that, a guy (I prefer not to disclose his name) and I had some fun - where he tied my wrist to the suspension point and started whipping me and putting clamps on me. There's no pretty gote, no pretty harness, no pretty pattern, no pretty position - but it's a beautiful moment - the moment when I willingly gave him my wrists and let him take control, to bring out the raw feelings/pain deep inside. It's true liberation and I enjoyed melting in his arms after suffering for him. 

Some pictures below...note that he only really whipped me for 3 minutes (although using 2 whips at the same time), and also note that he pulled all the clamps out AT THE SAME TIME.

Also, one thing worth mentioning is that in Hong Kong, I don't play with a lot of people as I am VERY picky. And I am also not very into humiliation. But he's the only person who can humiliate me....

許多時候，當我跟別人做緊縛時（不論是我綁人還是我被綁），我們做的也只是緊縛 －沒有痛楚，沒有羞恥，沒有性，有的只是兩人之間那一刻的感覺和聯繫。但有時候，你會還到一個特別的人，而跟他，繩可以將兩人之間的關係最一步提升，令兩人更親密。在那一刻，我是會願意交給他我的心靈和靈魂，讓他帶領我和支配我，我會願意為他受他給我的痛苦，我會願意他接受自己羞恥的一面。

其實這一篇文章不是關於被綁時很漂亮的照片／緊縛的活動等等，今次是關於人怎樣用繩在家裹得到快樂。我發現最近，有好多人都只顧緊縛後的照片，緊縛時綁得正確與否，但忘記了緊縛時帶來的快樂。在家裹跟另一半玩BDSM時，有多少人真的會吊起另一半﹖我想說的是，繩，在不同時候有不同的意義和用途，而大家不應該忘記繩，其實可以讓你有十分性感的一刻。

昨天，我跟三位朋友一起玩繩。我們先處理了一些繩，然後就練習了一會兒。然後其中一個男的S將我的手腕綁到天花板的吊環，然後開始鞭打我和把20多個夾子放在我的胸上。這一刻，我身上的繩只是手腕上，沒有漂亮的後手縛或者其他的縛法，但那一刻是十分美麗的一刻－我願意給他我的手，讓他控制我，讓他給我痛楚，讓他帶出我最心底裹的感覺。從簡單的緊縛，我得到了最大的解放。

以下是一些圖片，其實他只是鞭打了我3分鐘（但他很快的同時用2條鞭打我），還有的是⋯⋯他最後是同一時間將20多個夾子一次過拉下來的⋯⋯

還有的是，我在香港很少跟別人玩BDSM的，許多時候只是緊縛，沒有其他，因為我只跟少數可以跟我聯繫的人玩，我平時也不喜愛羞恥的，所以⋯⋯昨天真的很特別：）

HKBDSMC March Rope Gathering 3月份HKBDSMC緊縛聚會 20 March 2015

中文版在下面 Chinese version below


(from now on, I will try to write in both languages so that both the Western and the local community can understand my posts and my sharing)


First, thank you for Eddie's effort in organising a rope gathering today and everyone who helped out. :)


This is the second HKBDSMC event that I attend, first one being the rope performance by Nawakiri Shin. Last time, I didn't have much time to talk to the attendees. Thanks to everyone who approached me to introduce themselves.


So the night started by Eddie introducing the attendees. There were around 30 attendees - definitely a bit bigger than most events hosted by Fetlife Hong Kong group. Some people brought some toys/ropes/books to share with everyone and I could see that people had fun meeting new friends and chatting (with food and drinks hehe). I could see that most people were quite shy, so the first half of the night was pretty quiet and slow. There were a few people who started tying for a bit but most people were mostly just chatting and watching.


I was curious as to how Eddie tied his gote as everyone has a different style so he kindly showed me his tie. The gote I always do is the one inspired by Akechi Denki and adopted by Osada Steve and Hajime Kinoko. It's interesting to see a different style. Yoghurt also kindly let me do a hair tie on her - with her hair pulled to the back and tied to a hip harness with crotch rope hehe.


Later that night, Nuitdetokyo dropped by for a visit. We chatted a bit about ropes and then we did some ropes together. Usually, when we do ropes, we stay on the floor but for his comfort, he decided to tie me on some sofa chairs. He started with a gote, and then he tied my legs to my waist, and then worked on a hair tie and finally gagged and blindfolded me with ropes. When I get tied, what I value the most is the connection and the feelings and I was completely rope drunk. He hit me once, and stopped (I wonder why...lol as I thought he would continue a I enjoy pain haha) and then he untied me. A lot of people were sitting around to observe and watch and I think it's interesting that people get to see the other side of rope bondage/shibari - it's not only about the tying and the pattern - but more importantly, what you achieve with it. Rope is like an extension of one's arm - to caress a body, to bring out a person's raw feelings and sensations.


After that, Eddie wanted his partner, Yoghurt, to experience Nuidetokyo's ropes so he tied a 2-rope teppou on her. He also quickly showed everyone how to do a hishi gote (a very decorative tie that a lot of people like) and a strappado.


After he left, I decided to do some tying and Ken volunteered (so many people were so shy and never approached me!!!). I always enjoy tying different people, and practising tying people of different sizes. A lot of people ask me what the difference is between tying a male and a female. I would say that a lot of times, it's not the gender that matters - we are all different individuals, and the difference lies in the connection between the two people, not so much the body shape or gender. So I did a gote on Ken, and then proceeded to tie his legs and did something like an ebi tie. It's fun tying without conforming to the "traditional ties" actually - I just tied according to my flow and my feelings at that time. I was really happy to see that he enjoyed being tied by me :)


Rope work: subay

Model: Ken

Photographer: subay

After tying Ken, it's time to pack and I had a good chat with the attendees. Eddie and I are planning to host more rope gatherings in the future - so that people can learn, practice and just have some rope fun! Stay tuned everyone!



（我會嘗試用中文和英文來寫將來的分享，希望外國及香港的朋友都有機會閱讀我的文章）


首先，多謝大人籌備今日的聚會，以及工作人員的幫助：）


今次是我第二次出席HKBDSMC的聚會，第一次是去小林的表演，上一次沒有機會認識大家，多謝今日主動來認識我的朋友，很開心認識到新朋友。


在聚會的開始，大人先介紹所有出席的朋友。今日大概有30位朋友出席，比起FETLIFE的活動是大型一點。有些朋友帶來繩，書籍，玩具，工具等分享，一開始大家主要在談天，見到大部份人都比較內向，可能是未認識大家，所以一開始都比較靜，只有數位朋友開始拿起繩練習／綁，其他人主要在觀看。


我對大人如何綁後手縛很有興趣，因為每個人都有不同的風格，所以大人綁了一次給我看。我的後手縛是源自明智伝鬼的後手縛，亦是長田流及一鬼等繩師用的後手縛，大人的後手縛是有點不同的，很有趣見到不同的綁法。乳酪之後讓我綁她的頭髮，我將她的頭髮綁好後拉到後面連著股繩（哈哈我就是很喜歡這些比較有感覺的綁法）


然後，我一位法國朋友（在日本綁繩綁了10多年了，認識很多有名的繩師） Nuitdetokyo來了聚會探訪，我們分享了一些關於緊縛的知識，然後他開始綁我。平常我們會在地上做緊縛的，但因為地板太硬，他說要在椅子上哈哈。他先在我身上做個後手縛，然後把我的腳綁起，再連接我的腰，最後綁了我的頭髮，再用繩把我口和眼都綁著。當我被綁時，我十分著重感覺和兩人之間的聯繫，綁著的不只是我的身軀，還有我的心靈。當我被綁時，附近應該有其他人在觀看，我相信大家都享受見到兩人之後做緊縛時的聯繫，是十分親默的－這是日本緊縛十分重要的一環 －緊縛不只是關於綁出來的樣子，繩像是人的手，用繩可以去撫摸身體，帶出最真的感覺。


大人之後希望乳酪可以感受被Nuitdetokyo綁起，所以他做了一個teppou的綁法（我不知道中文的名子是甚麼，看參考圖片），然後他亦在我身上很快地講解了怎樣綁鑽石型的後手縛和後直手縛。


參考圖片：

他走了之後，我決定做些緊縛，而Ken主動來給我綁哈哈。我希望綁不同的人，許多人問我綁男和綁女有其麼分別－其實我覺得綁每一佪人都不同，而性別，體型等等不是重點，而是你綁的人是個怎樣的人，緊縛不是公式化的，應該就每一個的不同來做不同的綁法。我綁Ken時，首先綁了個後手縛，然後再做個雙腿曲膝並縛，再將腳和上身連接了一起。我綁時主要是跟我當時的感覺和他的舒適度來綁，其實這樣綁是最開心的，發揮自己的創造力。


緊縛者：subay

被綁者：Ken

攝影：subay

綁完之後就是時間收拾及離開。大人和我以後可能會合作籌備更多關於緊縛的活動，希望更多人可以認識緊縛，練習，和分享。密切留意最新消息﹗



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Photoshoot on 17 March 2015

It's the first time that I do a photoshoot in which I suspend a person. It's definitely a great challenge for me - I have to take care of my bottom and ensure her safety, and also focus on tying and maintain the flow, and at the same time communicating with the photographers. But it's a really great experience :) 

There are a lot of awesome pictures but they are with faces so unfortunately I cannot share them publicly - but here are some snapshots :) 

Rope work: subay

Photography: BeatriceWong and Eye Level Photography

Photoshoot with Ling on 23 Feb 2015

I had been tying for some time, but it was my first time tying for a photoshoot and I was tying a model who didn't have any experience with rope bondage so it was quite challenging.

So I started with a double column tie, and then a gote and a futomono. It was fun introducing someone new to rope bondage ;)

Rope work: subay
Model: Ling
Photography: Eye Level Photography

Rope Performance by Nawakiri Shin on 13 Jan 2015

A local BDSM forum, HKBDSMC, invited Nawakiri Shin to do a rope performance in January. It's quite an experience for me as it's the first time that I went to an event that's organised by HKBDSMC instead of Fetlife. 

There were quite a few people at the event. I would say around 50 and that's quite impressive. HKBDSMC sees to have a larger group of active members for sure and I can see that a lot of them are really passionate about ropes which makes me feel really happy. 

Every rope artist has a different style when it comes to tying - it can be rough, sadistic, soft or caressing - well or a mixture of different things really. At the beginning, when Shin walked out, it's full of power and dominance. He swiftly tied up his sleeves and maintained a connection with Nancy - and connection's always the coolest thing to watch. Rope is really only the tool. Throughout the performance, Shin's soft and caring. This can be reflected by the short episode - Nancy started having a runny nose during an inverted suspension. I think it really added value to the performance because Shin's caring hands really shows the intimacy and love between the two of them. 

After the rope performance, there's food and people started discussing. On that day, @nuitdetokyo was there as well and he told me more about Shin - Shin's rope is influenced by Nawashi Kanna in Japan. In fact, when I learnt tying, I didn't really learn anything about the rope culture in Japan and the difference between the schools but after the event, I started becoming really intrigued by it. But the difficulty is really with remembering all the Japanese names haha but I will definitely read up on that.

Shin and I also started chatting a lot and exchanging our views on the rope scenes in London, US, HK and Taiwan. I also learnt a lot from him when we both observed the event organiser's rope performance that came after his show.

At last, I thought it would be cool if I could experience the ropes by Shin. With @nuitdetokyo's help, Shin agreed to suspend me. I hadn't been suspended for some time so I was definitely excited. Here's a snapshot of the suspension.

Rope work: Nawakiri Shin
Model; subay
Photography: millkybunny

Subay and Ropes - How I started, why I started, and my rope journey

I started learning all about the BDSM community when I was 18. It's also when I first started exploring more about ropes.

I still remember my first rope bondage experience. I was tied in a gote by jute - my feelings were so complicated. It's not just about being restraint - there's a huge difference between being put in cuffs and being tied by jute - from the texture, the smell of the ropes, to the connection, the intimacy and the liberation (despite being restrained). For the first time, I felt like my soul and my heart really soar high into the sky.

That was 3 years ago. I didn't have a lot of experience or knowledge about shibari or kinbaku. I just loved being tied. But there were also not many experienced rope tops in Hong Kong anyway. I started getting more intrigued about ropes and I wanted to learn. But at that point, I didn't have any willing bottoms - and I suspected that it's because I was young, female, Asian and submissive. So I never got the chance to learn.

So I tried my best to make it to all the rope events in Hong Kong. I remember that there was a visiting rope top from America and I asked if he could tie me. And I was rejected rudely with this: you are not pretty and I am not attracted to you - why should I tie you? That hurt me immensely. And I told myself that if I were to become a rope top, humility would definitely be something I see as super important.

After that, I decided to get more serious about learning ropes. And for several reasons. I wanted to become a better rope bottom and I believed that more knowledge would allow me to give more useful feedback, and be able to perform better in ropes, and be able to tell which rope tops I could trust. Another reason's that I really wanted to be able to connect with others on such a deep level.

Finally, I had the chance to tie and learn in the Peer Rope group in London in August 2014. I met so many supportive friends and they were the people who kept encouraging me. I also started self tying to practice :)

When I got back to Hong Kong after this visit to London, I grabbed every chance I had to do ropes, learn and practice. I am now also hosting some rope socials in Hong Kong. I know that beginning is really difficult. I have been through that so I would really love to help others out.

I can actually foresee that my rope journey would be a difficult one as the rope scene in Hong Kong is so small and there are so few experienced rope tops in Hong Kong. But with passion and dedication, I will try my best to continue to develop and polish my skills. :)