An Intimate Moment - Ropes and Whips 那一刻－繩與鞭 (22 March 2015)

A lot of times, when I do ropes with people, it's just ropes - no pain, no shame, no sexual moment - just pure connection, caressing and love for each other. But there are times, when with the right person that you can connect with, ropes can bring the two people to connect on an even deeper level - where I am willing to give him my soul and heart, to submit to him, to suffer for him, and to embrace my inner shame.

This entry is not about pretty ties/photoshoot/rope events. It's more like a rope scene. But I am still writing it because I want to tell everyone that now, a lot of people are too obsessed with the idea of taking pretty rope pics, focusing too much on the tie, and they forget that people use ropes to connect and play and have fun. It's to enhance the entire experience. In private, instead of suspending your partner and having to worry about his/her safety all the time, why not stay on the floor and have some sexy time? 

So yesterday, I had a private rope date with 3 people. We treated some ropes, and did some rope practice. After that, a guy (I prefer not to disclose his name) and I had some fun - where he tied my wrist to the suspension point and started whipping me and putting clamps on me. There's no pretty gote, no pretty harness, no pretty pattern, no pretty position - but it's a beautiful moment - the moment when I willingly gave him my wrists and let him take control, to bring out the raw feelings/pain deep inside. It's true liberation and I enjoyed melting in his arms after suffering for him. 

Some pictures below...note that he only really whipped me for 3 minutes (although using 2 whips at the same time), and also note that he pulled all the clamps out AT THE SAME TIME.

Also, one thing worth mentioning is that in Hong Kong, I don't play with a lot of people as I am VERY picky. And I am also not very into humiliation. But he's the only person who can humiliate me....

許多時候，當我跟別人做緊縛時（不論是我綁人還是我被綁），我們做的也只是緊縛 －沒有痛楚，沒有羞恥，沒有性，有的只是兩人之間那一刻的感覺和聯繫。但有時候，你會還到一個特別的人，而跟他，繩可以將兩人之間的關係最一步提升，令兩人更親密。在那一刻，我是會願意交給他我的心靈和靈魂，讓他帶領我和支配我，我會願意為他受他給我的痛苦，我會願意他接受自己羞恥的一面。

其實這一篇文章不是關於被綁時很漂亮的照片／緊縛的活動等等，今次是關於人怎樣用繩在家裹得到快樂。我發現最近，有好多人都只顧緊縛後的照片，緊縛時綁得正確與否，但忘記了緊縛時帶來的快樂。在家裹跟另一半玩BDSM時，有多少人真的會吊起另一半﹖我想說的是，繩，在不同時候有不同的意義和用途，而大家不應該忘記繩，其實可以讓你有十分性感的一刻。

昨天，我跟三位朋友一起玩繩。我們先處理了一些繩，然後就練習了一會兒。然後其中一個男的S將我的手腕綁到天花板的吊環，然後開始鞭打我和把20多個夾子放在我的胸上。這一刻，我身上的繩只是手腕上，沒有漂亮的後手縛或者其他的縛法，但那一刻是十分美麗的一刻－我願意給他我的手，讓他控制我，讓他給我痛楚，讓他帶出我最心底裹的感覺。從簡單的緊縛，我得到了最大的解放。

以下是一些圖片，其實他只是鞭打了我3分鐘（但他很快的同時用2條鞭打我），還有的是⋯⋯他最後是同一時間將20多個夾子一次過拉下來的⋯⋯

還有的是，我在香港很少跟別人玩BDSM的，許多時候只是緊縛，沒有其他，因為我只跟少數可以跟我聯繫的人玩，我平時也不喜愛羞恥的，所以⋯⋯昨天真的很特別：）